Self Help & Personal Growth

How To Collect Friends

This article provides some excellent tips and advice on how to "collect" friends ...

There are a lot of things people would like to be known for once their time here on earth is up. Many want to know they left their mark on history, others want to be known for their charitable contributions, and still others want to know that they will be remembered for some sort of artistic contribution to society. Have you ever stopped to think how nice it would be to be remembered as someone who had hundreds, if not thousands of friends?

There is no greater feeling in the world than to be genuinely likeable or loved by the people that you love. There isn't a pill that can comfort or console you when you need a shoulder to cry on, there isn't a drink you can mix that will give you the compassion you need when you are deeply saddened, nothing beats a genuine friend.

So why then do so many people count as few as none and as many as three or four on one hand?  It may be because they never took the opportunity to become a genuine friend to someone else. Here's a challenge for you, make it your mission to collect friends over the course of your lifetime. There are many people out there that could use your friendship. Take a look at some tips on how you can have more friends and people around you to love and have good times with over the course of a lifetime:

• Become a TRUE friend and you gain one for life
• Have an extensive Christmas Card list ......compile addresses from every business card , every address from family members, college and high school classmates , everyone you can think of  into an Excel file and use it each and every Christmas
• Keep a list of email addresses with your Christmas Card list , send out e-mail greetings and Happy Birthday wishes on your friend's special occasion
• Learn to bake something that is exceptionally delicious , and if someone you know loses a loved one , take them your baked good
• Be a good Neighbor
• Be Kind to each and every elderly person you know
• At Christmas, take people you see regularly your "not quite famous yet" baked good
• Have manners
• Say Please and Thank you
• Say you're sorry when you need to
• Never gossip about anyone, PERIOD!
• As soon as you meet someone, think of someone else with that person's first name so you can remember your new acquaintance by name. Use their name frequently in conversation,  show genuine interest in what they are saying

Collecting friends can be one of Life's Greatest Gifts. Think how great this world would be if we had the ability to really know some of the people we meet. Some of the most successful speakers in the world become that way because they are truly likeable people with a genuine care for others. You don't have to be a public speaker to earn the title of FRIEND, but if you are looking for friends, you first will need to be one.

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